Sunday, June 15, 2014

Relationships on the internet

This is a bit of a continuation on my topic from last week.  This week I want to talk about how there is enmity when being on the internet. That anyone can say or pretend to be who ever. I have several women on my facebook that claim to be bollywood actresses. I don't get all excited and jump and think o gee bollywood actresses "no". If I don't meet you face to face I don't know who you really are.  Again experience have taught me pictures LIE.
When it comes to internet relationships we create an emotional disconnect. We as human beings need to emotionally connect with people. Now of Days people connect through the social media well thats not really emotionally connecting. We still don't know who you are, and you still don't know who I'am.  Those of you saying I want love and connecting with these people via internet aren't emotionally connecting, because theres a wall . Literally a wall your computer screen creates that disconnection. It allows you to see what the other person wants to show you.  It allows both of you to hide ,  in order not be hurt, and what this does it creates problems in your reality.  You think because some kind of pen pal relationship is going on no, it's not really connecting. What it shows me in my opinion and from experience, internet relationship is someone or both people are scared of being emotionally rejected or hurt. Also this relationship shows me a person trying to create or pretend to be  someone they are not.  As soon as you meet this person face to face the truth is not revealed but it's getting there. What happens, the guy normally says after sex mind you, " we're moving to fast." Why well because the man or woman didn't want  a relationship, or because the reality and the character one has built in their head doesn't match the person or the person turned out to be fake.
Also back to my previous statement about your reality, it creates blockage with real love relationship, it prevents them. You are putting out to the universe I want to live in my head. Then the universe says okay there in love, so be it. After this it makes it difficult for love to come into your life because you have to learn to let love in from people close to you. You have to learn to allow your emotional self to be vulnerable which is a real fight between the emotional self and the conscious self .   Also it means that you need to work on seeing whats in front of you and work on being more logical. You could emotional , I'm that way I'm very emotional but knowing how I'am have to think like a man. I have to think black and white not 50 shades of red.
Because if I'm from one state and you are from another country, you are trying to have some long distance relationship than you need to drop your life and move to the states or I need to drop my life and move to you. But I guarantee you as soon as you talk about moving or bringing up moving the chances are the relationship is going to run into problems.   Because there's going to be some emotional blockage preventing this relationship to go further.  This is cause by not allowing others in your life always wanting your privacy, feeling like a relationship will inhibit your freedom, or making decisions based on gratifying the ego.
So when people say I want love you have to make it really  clear to yourself what is it you want, why do you feel like you want. Do you want to open yourself up ? Do you want someone to know the real you? When saying I want love  you need to break it down and be honest with yourself. Some people's vision of what love is very skewed . I'm just  be specific  with that because your actions and what you want are two different things. I want love but yet I'm having a disconnected relationship on the internet. You are actions are not matching your words. When your putting out there to the universe you are creating  contradictions in the universe.